Are You Forcing Or Flowing?

How to Let Go of What You’ve Outgrown & Live In Alignment

Have you ever had a time where you thought, “What am I even doing here?"

Or maybe: “I don’t want to live like this anymore!” 

I know I sure have.

Recently a song came on while I was in the shower that was about wanting something to work so badly. It took me back to countless relationships where I was so attached to being in a relationship that I ignored the disrespect, the hurt, the red and yellow flags...

A question arose: “Are you forcing or flowing?”

Too often we have this idea of how it is supposed to be, or the potential of what it could be if this one thing would change. We contort ourselves, sacrificing some of our own wants and desires, in an effort to keep this version of them or the relationship.

We are a product of the 5 people we interact with the most. If the people closest to you are bitter, negative, stagnant, it will chip away at your vibration, too. 

We all deserve to surround ourselves with people who encourage us, cheer us on, support us when we’re struggling. 

Forcing something to work has become a norm in many other aspects of our lives as well.

Some people have known for yearsss that they’ve outgrown their job before leaving. Staying in an apartment or office because you’re comfortable enough yet not fulfilled.

Even in what we wear! 

Younger me wanted to be a small so badly. I would force my body into jeans and tops that were too tight and would be uncomfortable by mid-day, leaving marks on my skin.

It's sad that these behaviors are so normalized that they often go unnoticed. Patterns of living this way dampen our light -- our spirit!

I now see this pattern as forcing something to work instead of allowing it to dissolve. When we allow the dissolution, energy can flow into other areas and people who are more aligned, and we can rediscover what it feels like to live in alignment!

Life is hard enough.

Don’t stay in places and spaces that feel forced! 

Sometimes the part of us that’s clinging has some unhealed attachment wounds. Nurture that part with compassion instead of letting it decide your next steps.

Often people ask, "Well, how do I do that?!"

It’s simple, yet may be challenging at first if you aren’t familiar with this level of attunement. 

2 options for connecting:

1. Close your eyes

2. Place one hand on your heart and one on your belly

3. Take a few breaths and imagine seeing a younger version of you

4. Let them know that they deserve more!

5. Validate the feelings that may arise of being scared, uncertain, etc. 

6. Again, with certainty, assure that it doesn’t have to be like this

7. Over time, you build trust with this part. You can be the change.

   
   

Option 2

1. Look in the mirror

2. Really look at yourself and smile

3. Tap into your highest vibration: laughter, dance, whatever brings that up in you

4. Remind yourself of who brings that out in you

5. Which places does that version feel natural

6. Follow your intuition to those spaces

   
   

Whichever you choose, remember to listen to those inner whispers when you’re alone…reminding you that there’s another way to live -- to flow -- to be.

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